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The word that best describes my mother growing up is...

Adjectives of relationship with my mother growing up are: smothering, disinterested, distant, stupid, disgust. The one with the most energy is: disgust. The word that best describes my mother growing up is: disgust. Mum would get me to dance on command, then watch me dance, and then comment on how 'beautiful' I was. I liked it to a point, but then it became icky, and I wanted to escape. When jumping into bed in between them in the mornings, I'd spoon Mum, or be spooned by her. She'd often comment that I was a "good little boy", which was nice but I wanted more - something from Dad? She commented on Dad's activities and drinking, which pushed me to have disgust with my Dad, and I bought Mum's point of view, yet felt disgust that she was splitting our family and pushing me away from Dad. I was a trophy to my mother - if I didn't look good, or be "nice", I'd get a scorn oer a frown. I had to be "on" for her. I had to perform , ...