The worst day of my life


Alone in my nightmare
The blessing of yesterday's hug has turned into a nightmare.

Unfortunately I've realised that another breach of my wife’s boundaries, which are: 

No sexual or romantic conduct with another man or woman outside our marriage. This includes an unhealthy emotional connection.

Any form of genital contact (even through clothing), naked holding, romantic kissing, erotic chat (including by phone, text, email, internet), taking, sending, exchanging, or requesting naked pictures, naked or erotic webcamming — or similar behaviours —regardless of your intentions and regardless of who initiated it.

Any ‘holding’ to be done only within the Brother’s Road guidelines for ‘golden father holding’.

It was definitely naked holding.

I’m trying to show my wife that I’m not breaking boundaries. And before we even separate I’ve broken another one! 🤬🤦‍♂️

  1. Naked pic
  2. Touching a man in his bathing suit area
  3. Nude man video call
  4. Meeting an SSA man in a private setting that was avoidable 
  5. Naked holding
I don't think I can feel any lower today. Today is the worst day of my life.

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