Blessings


​I’ve been in the Unwanted Journey course by Jay Stringer for the last few months. We had the last session yesterday and we each spoke a blessing to each of the men. 

Here’s the blessing from Scott:

André - It’s rare to have a loyal friend. You are one of the most loyal, generous and kind friends I’ve ever had the honor of knowing. Evil sought to destroy you in the place of your greatest glory…your ability to befriend, be playful with and connect with men. Your boyful playfulness is evident to everyone…nobody can work a boner into a conversation quite like you! What’s beautiful is to see how you’ve started to transform to take the glory and honor God has given you more seriously and you are taking yourself more seriously. You’ve learned from your mistakes and have done a better job of finding your boundaries to both delight in others and at the same time, keep your relationships from going to a place of dishonour. As you continue to show compassion and kindness to little André you’re doing the job your father failed to do…keeping him safe. And, as you continue to pursue delight with both honour and honesty, I bless you to step into your role of connecting and building communities of men. The greatest thing about you André is not your hairy chest or your muscles or your good looks. The greatest thing about you is being a loyal friend. That’s what makes you really beautiful. I bless you to see and embrace your true beauty beyond your physical beauty.

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  1. Anonymous03 December, 2023 16:26

    Amen. André I can also attest to your loyalty, which is truly the most beautiful thing about you.

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  2. Anonymous12 December, 2023 21:26

    God bless you friend!

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