Why don't I do Brazilian Juijitsu?

Earlier last year (before my back pain came back) I had a triggering experience at the Brazilian Jujitsu place that I’ve been to for years with a coach called Rohan. I stopped going and paused my membership, and I received texts saying, “We’ve noticed that you haven’t been on the mats…” Eventually I met up with the head coach, Mitch, and he suggested that Rohan and I meet up and share our stories. I gave him permission to pass my contact details on to Rohan.

Silence.

For months. In June, I got excruciating back pain and realised I wouldn’t be wrestling for a while and didn’t bother following up, but I got better and then wondered why Rohan or Mitch hadn’t contacted me to meet up. I investigated some other BJJ places, but they didn’t seem to have the camaraderie of Dark Carnival. 

On Monday, my usual staff meeting got cancelled and I decided I wanted to be assertive and find out why.

I walked in and the head coach, Mitch, was there. He asked how I was and said he hadn’t seen me in… a few months? I said that it’s been over a year. He was surprised. I asked why I’d never met up with Rohan. He said he’d passed it on to him and assumed it had happened, but I said it hadn’t. He said he’d get on to it. 

My new name in The Crucible Project is ‘Strong and Assertive Lion’ - I’m being assertive.



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