Destroying my teeth with stress

I just sent this to my lawyer:

FYI my mental health has been deteriorating over the last several months. At my last two 6-monthly dentist appointments my dentist noticed I have been clenching my teeth and cracking my fillings. I am wearing a night guard to protect against this now. 

My sleep quality has deteriorated to the point I need medication to have a decent sleep. 

My wife has settled into the former rental property, unpacked, and only living out of a suitcase when living at the old family house. So it’s almost normal for her now. All my stuff is in boxes in the garage and I’m living out of a suitcase when at both properties. So it’s a much more uncertain and uncomfortable time for me. 

There are a thousand little tasks to do in preparing the house for sale. She’s smashing through them, and is frustrated I’m not doing the same (that’s also her strength being a J-type in Myers-Briggs). I’ve felt increasingly stressed in my body and needing to hit the gym to de-stress, as well as continuing my counselling. Negotiating the financial and legal stuff with her has gotten so stressful that I turned up to teach last Wednesday and I was shaking. I talked to my boss and they suggested I talk to my GP.  He has put me on stress leave and given me some medication. So I’m off work for a week and then reduced workload for 3-weeks before re-evaluating. I’m on antidepressants to reduce my anxiety, and Valium to help me sleep. 

My mental health challenges were already challenging when we were in a functioning marriage, worse when we began the separation, and are even worse now. I’m not suicidal, as I can see the end of the tunnel is getting closer. 

I expect that reality doesn’t make any difference to how you interact with me on legal matters, but I mention it in case it can be noted for some legal advantage that I’m not aware of. 

Thanks.

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